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January 2023

V’ahavtah: A Pedagogy of Love (Learning to Love the Student You Hate)

Dasee Berkowitz
Lead Consultant, Facilitator and Educator
Dasee Berkowitz Consulting
The V’Ahavtah : A pedagogy of love is aimed to help educators love the students they dislike

Educators enter the field because of their love for teaching others. What happens when these educators encounter students they dislike? How do their thoughts, attitudes, and behaviors toward their students become complicated? How can they maintain their sense of equanimity even in these challenging encounters?
The V’Ahavtah : A pedagogy of love (aka Learning to love the students you hate) is aimed to help educators in precisely these situations. While the pedagogy is not a “‘quick fix,”’ it will spark an awareness that challenging moments are opportunities for an educator’s inner growth. When an educator can lean into the hard feelings that are evoked with students as opportunities to access compassion, care, and even love, then educators will be able to both endure these challenges and expand their capacities to become better educators.

Dasee Berkowitz is a Jewish educator, facilitator, and writer with a focus on bringing a Jewish spiritual lens to family life. Most recently, Dasee served as the director of Ayeka's Becoming a Soulful Parent program in which she worked with scores of clergy and Jewish educators throughout North America to bring her unique approach to parent education to inspire deeper connections between educators and learners. Her first book, Becoming a Soulful Parent: A path to the wisdom within was published by Kasva Press in March 2021. Dasee earned a BA in Near Eastern Studies from Barnard College and her MA in Jewish Education from Hebrew University. She is currently enrolled in the Certificate Program in Facilitation at Georgetown University. Dasee lives in Jerusalem with her husband and three children.
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